Archive for Motherhood

4 Year Old Driving Me Nuts!

Q: Allana, I am going to lose it with my almost 4 year old. I’m a single mom and he is pushing my boundaries to the point that they might break. Everything is a fight, everything is a debate, everything is an issue. He’s my only and this might be normal but between his attitude and my stress at work, I am…I don’t even know anymore.

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Kids Stress Me So Much, I’m Losing My Hair!

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Question: Dearest Allana, I find myself constantly losing patience with my kids. I am so stressed all the time that my hair is starting to come out. It may be that they are getting older, it may be that we are having financial trouble, all I know is I am getting worried. What can I do?

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My sister and I couldn’t be any more different if we tried.

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Question: My sister and I couldn’t be any more different if we tried. It was never a big deal until we both became mothers. She had her son first and now that mine is about 3 (her son is 5) – she feels the need to critique my methods of parenting. I don’t know if she is just trying to be the wiser older sister and believes she knows best because her son is older than mine but I think she is a terrible mom. I look at her son and pity the victim he will be when he gets older because she shelters him from everything. Is there a way to tell her thanks but keep your opinions to yourself?

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How can I take care of my child and be intimate with my husband?


Question: My husband and I are the proud parents of a beautiful little girl. She is my world. I don’t know what I would do without her. I can’t seem to do anything without thinking about her, worrying about her, and wanting to make sure she is ok. I am consumed by her. I know that I can’t seem to do anything about it, which is starting to cause problems in the intimacy department. I don’t want to have sex because I feel I won’t be able to get to her if she needs me. I might not hear her. I sleep in the nursery every night because I am so worried about her. My husband is trying to be understanding but I know that his patience is wearing thin.
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ME time for Single Parents

I’m a single mom of a 10 yr. old boy, an entrepreneur and an Intimacy Expert. In the early days, I noticed if I didn’t sleep until 7am and woke when my son got up at some ungodly hour, I was cranky, crunchy and impatient. Read More →

“Where Babies Come From”

My clients often send me funny little jokes, inspirational photos… It’s only the odd hooligans that send me photos of their penises (can you believe it?)

So anyhoooo, a great client sent me this funny joke about kids telling where babies come from… I immediately thought about that Mom in the joke AFTER the baby had arrived… Did she take time for her? Was she running on empty? Had she lost her identity? Was she exhausted and blaming herself?

Or did she learn what I learned and wrote about in my book Missing Handbook to Motherhood so she could be happy, healthy, juicy and alive? I wish someone had told ME about the tips, tools and practices that are in my book… AND also given me permission to fill up my tank before I was the walking dead… for when my cup runneth over.

I am an amazing Mom! When Mama’s happy, everybody’s happy!