Q: Allana, I am about to celebrate my 40th birthday and I am having a mini-crisis. I feel as if my life is so final right now. I am married to who I am going to be with. I can’t (don’t want) to have more kids. My job is my career from which I will retire. There is nowhere else to go from here. Everything has already been decided for me. I feel as if I am suffocating. Please help.