Archive for love

Why it’s glorious to lose at love

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It shows you where you made them the Source of your life… It reminds you that YOU are the Source of your life and Creation is here to support your dreams…

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My Husband Wants A Divorce – I don’t!

Question: My husband wants a divorce and I don’t. My parents were divorced and I swore if I ever got married, I would make it last. This would destroy me. We don’t have any kids so he has no reason to stay. How do I make him understand that we need to stay together? How do I get him to remember why he fell in love with me in the first place?

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I Can’t Stop Thinking About My Ex

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Question: My greatest challenge for the last two months has been working on letting go of my former girlfriend, but I haven’t had much success. I have been reaching out but I haven’t found much solace in doing so. I am hoping you can help.

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Why We Fall Out of Love

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I believe people fall OUT of love because their needs aren’t getting met. Either they feel controlled and unable to experience freedom or power… if it’s a personal relationship it could be because they don’t experience being loved or belonging… or it’s become all work and no play, no passion, no fun.

To make relationships work, both parties allow the other to do as they see fit… and that natural expression works for the other. One likes taking out the garbage and that works for both. The other likes making dinner and that works for both. As soon as you control the other, you can’t go play poker with the boys, or EVEN roll your eyes or disconnect love ever so slightly… it’s a downhill slope… so the idea is to find someone who’s natural ways complement yours so that both people feel freedom, power, fun, belonging and ultimately love.

WAY easier said than done, yet as soon as you stop controlling another and get curious, unattached and willing to truly GET another’s needs and allow freedom, either a solution appears or you bless and release the partnership with grace.

Blessings, Allana

Can This Marriage Be Saved?

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I’ll call them Sandy and Joe. Joe couldn’t slow down enough to be truly present and intimate with Sandy. Sandy’s frustrations about this made her feel lonely within the marriage and her dissatisfaction pushed Joe further away. Joe’s heart was so emasculated from his past marriage that if she was upset, he couldn’t really hear her without tuning out in fear. Sandy was angry that she left her job to be at home to be with Joe more, yet she felt ignored or abandoned by his lack of intimate connection.

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Is It A Good Idea To Live Together Before We Get Married?

You asked Coach Allana Pratt, “My girlfriend and I are getting married soon; however, we have talked about living together before we tie the knot.  Is that a good idea?  What are the pros and cons?”
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