Archive for Intimacy

Wife and I No Longer Share a Bed

Q: Allana, I am worried.  My wife and I are no longer sharing a bed.  She told me that it was because she was having trouble sleeping. The thing is, we have always shared a bed! Am I missing a red flag? Is something wrong?

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Wife’s Addicted to Porn

Q: I just found out that my wife is addicted to porn.  Well, maybe not addicted but needs help because she watches it a lot.  While I think on the one hand it is super hot, I worry that I don’t add up to what she is seeing and she may be watching it because I just don’t do it for her like the men in the videos do.  Have you ever had a situation like this?

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Tone It Down or Ramp It Up?

Q: Allana, as my husband gets older he’s wanting to be more and more adventerous with our sex life.  I am little more on the conservative side to be honest.  Does  he need to calm down or do I need to ramp it up?

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She’s Uncomfortable Cuddling… After 11 years of Marriage!


Question: My wife isn’t a very affectionate woman and I have come to accept that with hope maybe she will change over time. 11 years later and she still gets really uncomfortable if I try to cuddle with her, hold her hand, or sit next to her. What gives?

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Is There a Threesome in My Future?

Question: My girl is completely comfortable in her skin and with her sexuality.  She constantly talks about other woman, who she finds attractive, and who she would date if she was a guy.  What are the chances that I could get her into a threesome?
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Moving In Together After Retirement


Question:  Hi Allana!  I am 57 years old and will be retiring in about 3 years.  My friend wants me to come live with him once I retire.  We have been together for the last 5 years and have talked about marriage.  My daughter thinks it is a bad idea to just move in with him after being apart for so long.  What do you think??

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