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Sick of My Fiance’s Best Friend Picking Fights!

Q: I’m in a love triangle between two best friends. Let me explain. I recently got engaged to my now fiancé and I couldn’t be happier. The issue is his roommate has been his best friend since college so I’m kind of competing with their 10 yr relationship. While the friend hasn’t come straight out and said it, I believe he’s jealous because he’s constantly picking fights with me and it’s driving my fiancé nuts. My fiancé just wants us to get along, but I just don’t see it happening. How can I mend the fences with a man who thinks I’ve ruined his BROmance?

Answer: I can see how this would completely piss you off. And hurt you, yes?

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Who to Trust When Dating

Q: What is the secret to determining if someone I am dating is worth keeping, is trustworthy, essentially is an honest person.
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This Mouse Gets Frisky When the Cat’s Away

Q:  When the cat is away, this little mouse likes to play. When my husband is away, I hook up with my ex-boyfriend. I know it is wrong but I just can’t stop doing it. I have tried to cut him off but the sex with my husband is mediocre and the sex with my ex is mindblowing! I have heard of the 80/20 solution and I feel like this is it. Together, I have a 100% of what I want but if I get rid of one or the other, I am miserable. What should I do?
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Do Soulmates Exist or Am I Just a Cynic?

Q:  Do you believe in soulmates? Can you define what it actually means to someone who may be skeptical?
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Disagree! Don’t Avoid Dinner with the Ex!

Q: Allana, I just caught one of your YouTube videos. Personally, I have dinner regularly with my ex. It was important to me that we ended as friends. I still dated other people, it caused no problems. If there are no conflicts, why not? Read More →

My Son Missing His Absent Father

Q:  Allana, I am trying so hard to be strong for my child but every time my little boy asks me about his father (who isn’t in the picture), my heart breaks. What do I say to him? Why is he asking so much many questions about a person he has never met?
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