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He’s Love Me Because I Remind Him of Her…Who Died…

 

Q: Allana, there may not be an answer but I’m gonna ask anyway. I’m in love with a man who is only with me because I remind him of his girlfriend that passed away unexpectedly a few years ago. I know this isn’t healthy. Am I preventing him from moving on. Is he using me to in a way to keep her memory alive?

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Still in Love With My Ex, Is It Too Late?

Q:  Allana, everyone but me knew I was still in love with my ex. By the time I realized it, it was too late and he had met someone else. We have gone through so much together and I know if I just told him how I felt we would be together again. I am the one that ended it. I am the one that broke his heart but the things I care about then just don’t matter now. What should I do?

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My Husband Wanted My Sister, Not Me!

Q:  After 40 years of marriage, my husband finally tells me he was actually interested in my sister. She just so happened to not be home that day so he settled for me for company. 40 years later and I find out I am second choice. What do I do with this information? Do I let it go? He told me as a whimsical brush off thinking it was funny since so much time has passed but I just don’t see the humor.

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What Do You Do When One Wants Divorce and One Doesn’t?

A delicious question from my Good Men Project Audience!

Q:  Allana, if one person wants a divorce and the other person doesn’t, what do you do? The marriage is clearly over but the husband just won’t let go and move on.

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Do I Have to Censor Myself on Facebook

Q:  Allana, some may say I am opinionated, which is fine; but, my Facebook page is my platform where I speak my mind. With the latest issues going on (and I am leaving this vague on purpose), I have openly shared my opinions and views. It has been met with negative comments and people unfriending me. Should I have to censor myself?

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Unacquainted Love for 15 Years. Time to Let Go?

Q: 39 year old female here with a question for you Allana. I have been in love with my business partner since the day we met. He’s single but has always expressed that he only wants to be committed to his business and his career. We have been working side by side for 15 years now and we fight like an old married couple. There was one night where I thought we were gonna cross the line to something more but the phone rang and by the time he got back he was so frustrated from the call he just said “Good Night” and left. Nothing since. I never brought it up again but I always wondered what could have or would have been if that stupid phone hadn’t rang! I will be 40 next month. I don’t want to keep waiting and dreaming of what could be but I don’t want to destroy our working relationship either. Which one do I choose, business or pleasure? Read More →