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Post Pregnancy Body Turns Off Husband

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Q: My husband is no longer sexually attracted to me. I gained a few pounds with our little girl and he is used to my pre-pregnancy body. How can I be in a marriage if my husband is not attracted to me?

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What is the Best Way to Share Your Fantasies With a Partner?

Q: I would consider myself a non-vanilla person. The problem is, I don’t know the appropriate way to slip my desires into a conversation. What’s the best way to introduce something sexual in a new dating relationship? Especially because I feel they may be deemed too dirty… threesomes, S&M, sex swinging etc, without scaring the person off?
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Should Loving Someone Be This Hard?


In this video I speak on how love IS going to take work! I give you tips on what efforts are important for a great relationship. I also explain how relationships can fail. I also address how you know where you are in your relationship and how to trust your intuitive wisdom.

If you want a better body, you go to the gym. You want to keep a plant alive? You water it! That Disney fairytale of finding the right one and everything will be bliss thereafter is “B.S.” There’s nothing wrong if there’s problems.

How much effort should you put in? What does a plant get on a daily basis? A plant gets sunshine, water, pruning, paying it attention. All these things make a plant thrive. They are also needed for a relationship to thrive.

Both partners should be willing to do the work. I’ve seen where one partner puts in most of the effort while the other puts only about 50%. That could work out. The one time where it won’t work is if one partner is putting forth 100% and the other 0%.

How do you know where you are? Trust your intuitive wisdom. You know where this relationship is. If you can’t trust your truth, have a professional like me help hold your space and go through this with you. Oh, the empowerment and excitement of what’s really possible!

YOU have the power to create anything that you desire!

Huge delicious erotic sensual love now and expanding forevermore, Allana

When does persistence become harassment or stalking?

Q: Allana, When does persistence become harassment/stalking?

A: I get juicy when man knows what he wants and it’s me. I adore a man who honors my heart, mind and body and wants to spend time with me. Texting and emails are great once a day or even every other day which gives me space to desire you. I love it when men notice the slope of my neck, or my goofy giggle, or to know they were thinking of me. Personally I have a life and don’t care for several texts throughout the day, yet sexting at night for half and hour can be hot. I have zero tolerance for harassment and stalking.

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Don’t Want to Hide My Friends

Q: Before I was married, all of my friends were male.  I don’t know – I just connect with the better.  That is how my husband and I met.  Now that we are married, he has an issue with my guy friends. His point of view – as long as he doesn’t know they exist, I can have them in my life. That just doesn’t seem right to me. I try to honor him by making sure all my friends are female but I don’t know if he is in the wrong telling me to hide it or if I should be ashamed for considering male friends?

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Turning it Off and On. When to be a Noble and when to be a Badass?

Q: Dear Allana, I am sure you are asked this question a lot but as a man, women are the toughest creatures to figure out! I feel on one hand, a woman wants a man that takes charge (knight in shining armor) but on the other hand, she wants a man who is sensitive to her needs, caring, and emotionally available. How do I find a balance between being her Noble Prince Charming and her best friend?

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