Archive for divorce

How Can I Reclaim My Masculine Energy After a Divorce?

Question:  Allana, I’m having trouble being assertive, turning heads as a man since my divorce. I now don’t have faith in myself. What should I do? Read More →

Offering a House to Cancel Our Divorce

Q: I want a divorce but my husband doesn’t. I am trying to qualify to buy a house but at the same time selling the house we owned together. As I just filed for bankruptcy, I can’t get a loan. My husband has offered to buy a house for me and pay for it, if I call off the divorce. He said he wouldn’t live in it or anything. Should I do it?

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Dream of Marriage…Dread Commitment!

Fear of committment
Q: You asked Allana, “I have a problem with commitment but I would love to be married some day. How on earth can I find the one if I don’t want to settle down?”
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My Father is Gay, My Mother is Devastated.

Another question from the beautiful men at The Good Men Project.

Q:  Allana, my father just told me he is gay. I don’t care, I love him for being honest with himself; but, my mother, she is devastated. She keeps blaming herself and says she doesn’t know how to live her life without my father. What can I do?

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Losing My Wife. Is It Too Late?

Wanted to share one of my favorites from The Good Men Project:

Q:  Allana, I don’t know for sure but I think my wife is going to leave me. I will admit, I haven’t been the best husband. And while I have always provided for my family, I have put work before being present. Now that the kids are grown and out of the house, there is so much distance between us. I feel as if I realized this too late and I have lost her. How can I win her back? How can I save my marriage?

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She Doesn’t Love Me but Won’t Leave Me!

Q: I believe my wife no longer loves me and I have no idea why! I have flat out asked her and she has told me she doesn’t…but she won’t leave. Why would she stay with me if she doesn’t love me anymore?

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