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Should Loving Someone Be This Hard?


In this video I speak on how love IS going to take work! I give you tips on what efforts are important for a great relationship. I also explain how relationships can fail. I also address how you know where you are in your relationship and how to trust your intuitive wisdom.

If you want a better body, you go to the gym. You want to keep a plant alive? You water it! That Disney fairytale of finding the right one and everything will be bliss thereafter is “B.S.” There’s nothing wrong if there’s problems.

How much effort should you put in? What does a plant get on a daily basis? A plant gets sunshine, water, pruning, paying it attention. All these things make a plant thrive. They are also needed for a relationship to thrive.

Both partners should be willing to do the work. I’ve seen where one partner puts in most of the effort while the other puts only about 50%. That could work out. The one time where it won’t work is if one partner is putting forth 100% and the other 0%.

How do you know where you are? Trust your intuitive wisdom. You know where this relationship is. If you can’t trust your truth, have a professional like me help hold your space and go through this with you. Oh, the empowerment and excitement of what’s really possible!

YOU have the power to create anything that you desire!

Huge delicious erotic sensual love now and expanding forevermore, Allana

Too Desperate for Love

Q: I know I am being impatient but I am tired of being single. I am so desperate to be with someone that I would be willing to take anyone right now! Why am I like this?

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Threatened by My Father-in-Law

Q: I get it but enough is enough!  My father-in-law is a nice enough man, but every once drops a few subtle threats about what would happen if I hurt his daugther. We’ve been married for 10 yrs!

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Don’t Want to Hide My Friends

Q: Before I was married, all of my friends were male.  I don’t know – I just connect with the better.  That is how my husband and I met.  Now that we are married, he has an issue with my guy friends. His point of view – as long as he doesn’t know they exist, I can have them in my life. That just doesn’t seem right to me. I try to honor him by making sure all my friends are female but I don’t know if he is in the wrong telling me to hide it or if I should be ashamed for considering male friends?

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Turning it Off and On. When to be a Noble and when to be a Badass?

Q: Dear Allana, I am sure you are asked this question a lot but as a man, women are the toughest creatures to figure out! I feel on one hand, a woman wants a man that takes charge (knight in shining armor) but on the other hand, she wants a man who is sensitive to her needs, caring, and emotionally available. How do I find a balance between being her Noble Prince Charming and her best friend?

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Avoiding the Friend Zone

Q: I can not figure out the perfect combination! How can I build the basis of a relationship with a woman without falling into the friend zone?

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