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Dad Hates My Fiance

Q: My father doesn’t approve of my fiance and he keeps telling me I can do so much better. We are going to be married in less than two months and feel like this will cause so many problems once children are involved. Any advice?

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My Husband is Having an Affair!

Q: My husband is having an affair and he told me wants to leave me for her. We’ve been married seventeen years. We have three kids and we just moved because of his job but now I am wondering if it was because of the other woman. Why would he have us uproot our entire lives and then destroy it? Please help me save my marriage.

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From Mother to Mother: How Do I Reach My Seventeen Year Old?

Q: Allana, my seventeen year old is out of control. School just started and he has already been sent home three times for fighthing. I try to talk to him but he shuts me out. How can I get through to him?

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What do I wear on a ‘group date’ so I don’t get rejected?

Another memorable question from the beautiful men with the Good Men Project…


Allana, this may sound a little silly, but I need your help. I’m supposed to go on a group date and I have no idea what to wear. I’m a male, so asking a buddy just ISN’T going to happen. In the past, I have previously known the women I’ve dated…so I’d already passed the ‘first impression’ mark in the relationship so I wasn’t worried about my attire. But this will be the first time they’ll see me! How should I look so I don’t get shot down before I even open my mouth?

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In Love With Another. How Do I End Things With Current?

Q: Allana, when you are with one person but know you love another, how do you end things? How do you look at someone who cares so much about you and tell them that you don’t feel the same way, that your heart belongs somewhere else?

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Fall for a Man That Lives with His Girlfriend

Q: Allana, I have fallen in love with a man who lives with his girlfriend – who appears to be more a roommate by the sounds of it. He and I just talk a lot and text one another. Nothing has physically happened because he says nothing can happen between us as long as he is with someone. I absolutely admire that about him. I have no doubts that he has feelings for me. I don’t know where this will go in time. I do think it would be far worse if he was married. Any advice?

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