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From Devastated to Delicious…Life After Divorce

I remember when my husband and I separated, he went off to NYC to get laid for the weekend. Lovely. Then he married MY female financial advisor who found out a millionaire was on the loose. Ouch.

When my clients tell me war stories of him leaving her for a younger woman, her taking him to the cleaners, the betrayals, abandonment and cruelty that goes on, the first thing to help them out of stuck sorrow is to get angry.

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Trusting Again After a Relationship Ends

Question: How do I trust women again after a breakup? Read More →

Don’t Want to Hide My Friends

Q: Before I was married, all of my friends were male.  I don’t know – I just connect with the better.  That is how my husband and I met.  Now that we are married, he has an issue with my guy friends. His point of view – as long as he doesn’t know they exist, I can have them in my life. That just doesn’t seem right to me. I try to honor him by making sure all my friends are female but I don’t know if he is in the wrong telling me to hide it or if I should be ashamed for considering male friends?

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Turning it Off and On. When to be a Noble and when to be a Badass?

Q: Dear Allana, I am sure you are asked this question a lot but as a man, women are the toughest creatures to figure out! I feel on one hand, a woman wants a man that takes charge (knight in shining armor) but on the other hand, she wants a man who is sensitive to her needs, caring, and emotionally available. How do I find a balance between being her Noble Prince Charming and her best friend?

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Help! I am Self-Sabotaging My Love Life!

In the words of Adele – “They say times supposed to heal ya, but ain’t done much healing.”  Five years.  Five years have passed and it still stings.  The wound is still fresh and won’t repair itself.  Every time you close you eyes it feels as if it happening all over again.  Each step forward is met with two steps back.  So how do you move on?

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I Can’t Stand My Girlfriend’s Friends!


Question: My girl’s friends truly annoy me. Her best friend is the worst. I can’t stand being around them What’s a guy to do?

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