Q: I would consider myself a non-vanilla person. The problem is, I don’t know the appropriate way to slip my desires into a conversation. What’s the best way to introduce something sexual in a new dating relationship? Especially because I feel they may be deemed too dirty… threesomes, S&M, sex swinging etc, without scaring the person off?
A: I have so much more to say about this, my mind is racing! First off – great job having this conversation early! Second, are you aware that you get to have the kind of sex that works for you? Be you in bed! As long as you are not hurting anyone – why not have a little fun? As far as the conversation, the best way to have it is to be honest, kind, vulnerable, open, and truthful.
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