By Intimacy Expert Allana Pratt
Arguments are guaranteed when both mom and dad are exhausted… tit for tat competition occurs about who took out the trash last time, competing to decide who’s the most depleted. This is sooo sexy. NOT.
And yet what IS sexy, is a vulnerable man. Vulnerability is potency, power and is magnetically connecting. (Being a victim or blaming isn’t).
So guys ignite the next level of courage within you and have a heart to heart with your wife. Always speak YOUR truth. Perhaps your truth is that you miss her soft touch, you miss being held, you miss a long night of passion, you miss a quickie in the laundry room and you miss her dancing for you… what IS your truth?
Avoiding things only makes it worse. Withholding your attention separates you from her even more, making her spin in her head and withholding her touch as well.
You could create a game where she better watch out on Tuesday nights because she’s having 30 minutes of pleasure from you. And would she be willing to surprise him, on Thursdays, for your 30 minutes of pleasure?
If you don’t ask, you may not ever receive. What if she’s just waiting for a safe signal to pour her love, light, touch and devotion into you?
Hell, you could even pay your kids an allowance to rub your feet! I mean it! Or to feed you dinner by hand. How hysterical is that? The idea is you DO have a choice and you DO deserve to be loved, appreciated and adored, just like we delicious women do!
I KNOW it’s challenging to step up, show up and be vulnerable… yet that’s what turns us on about you men the most!!!! When you ‘man-up’ and let us know how it’s going down. Yummmm…..
This Father’s Day and EVERY day… know how lucky this world is to have you in it. And take full responsibility for your wellbeing on every level. I know you have it in you. HUGE delicious love, Allana