Archive for Questions and Answers – Page 2

He’s Getting a Divorce. Date Him or Run for It?

Q: Allana, I’m 54, divorced, and finally re-entering the dating scene.  I recently met a nice man who is currently going through a divorce. Having survived my own divorce, I know what he is experiencing and don’t want to be his rebound or reminder of one of the worst times in his life. I know I am being negative and it could be just the opposite but should I still date him or walk away?
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Desperate For Love

Q: Allana, I feel as if I am constantly sabotaging my chances of finding Mr. Right by constantly settling for Mr. Right Now! I am so desperate to be with someone that I settle for the first person that looks my way!
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Three Years and Still Waiting

Q: A question from my beautiful friends at Digital Romance: Allana, I’m running out of patience but I know I put myself in this situation.  Three years, THREE YEARS and he still hasn’t left his wife as he promised.  How much longer should I date him? How much longer should I let him dangle the carrot of a future before I just walk away.

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Point of No Return – Single Forever!

I love being an intimacy expert for the wonderful people at Meetmindful. Here is a delicious question I answered for them: Allana, I’ve been single for so long, I don’t even think I want a man. I’m not saying I want a woman either, I’m just asking – do people reach a point in their lives where they truly become asexual – where they don’t feel like dealing with the opposite sex, so they internalize their desires and that’s that.

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Keeping it in the Family

Sharing a little goodie from the great people of Meetmindful: Allana, my best friend’s dad likes my mom. While it would be great if things worked out (because we would be sisters for real!), it would make life extremely awkward if it didn’t work out. Should we talk to our parents and tell them how it would affect us if they crossed that line.

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Left with Wasted Years

Q: Another question asked by the single men in my workshop: Coach Allana, when two people make a promise to one another to love each other and swear that they do not need a piece of paper to prove it, is it ok if one day they say “Enough’s enough” and walk away? Where I live, we don’t have common law and my significant other and I made a promise to one another. Now she has decided she wants something else. And yet she was it for me. Am I really left with nothing but wasted years? What do I do now?

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