Archive for Questions and Answers – Page 2

Recovering from a Backstabbing

Q: Allana, I was having an affair with a married man and confided in (who I thought) was my best friend. She was the only one that knew and when rumors started to spread (because we were very careful), I knew she was the only one who could have said something. Turns out, she was gunning for his job and decided to use our affair to get him fired. I feel so betrayed. I guess I’m wondering how do you know who you can trust in, confide in, and who you can’t.
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What is Ghosting?

Q: Allana, what the hell is this ghosting thing? It seems to be the new “phrase” I am hearing a lot about but I don’t know what it means and I don’t know what it has to do with dating.
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How to Find Closure After a Sudden Breakup

Q: My boyfriend and I, well we “had” a long distance relationship and he recently broke up with me because he felt lonely. He felt himself growing closer to a woman that was local to him. I am trying to be understanding and he swears nothing happened between them but I feel so betrayed. Is this because I need some sort of closure? How would I get that feeling of closer like he seems to already have? What’s missing for me?
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How to Know When a Joke Can Be Made

Q: Recently Allana, I have began taking self-defense classes as a way to help me with my self-esteem. My boyfriend made a comment that he would need to take me “more seriously” now that I could “kick his a**”. What the h*ll does that mean? Was he not taking me seriously before, when he thought I was weak. He may have just been joking but can you tell me what he meant?
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3 Signs That Distance is Saving Your Relationships

Q: Hi Allana!I am 57 years old and will be retiring in about 3 years. My friend wants me to come live with him once I retire. We have been together for the last 5 years and have talked about marriage. My daughter thinks it is a bad idea to just move in with him after being apart for so long. What do you think?
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How Do I Attract the Right Woman

Q: I am having issues attracting the right woman. Do you have any advice on how to attract the right one?
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