Archive for Questions and Answers

Signs You Have Found the One

Q: When do you know you have reached the point of being all in or releasing a relationship? You see, my boyfriend and I have been together since high school and then 7 years this June. Part of me feels like we stayed together more for familiarity and security more than anything else. We were each other’s first for everything and our families are waiting to hear the wedding bells. I just don’t know if he is my “forever” love. How do you know?
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Losing Your Identity For the Sake of Friendship

Q: When is it going to far that your compromise who you are just to fit in? There are a group of mothers on my street that remind me of the cool girls in high school. The few times they have invited me in, I find myself speaking poorly about people I care about so I am seen as “one of them”.
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Line Between Getting Advice and Oversharing in Relationship

Q: Allana, I often find myself torn between the desire to respect the privacy of my partner and our relationship and the desire to share relationship problems with my close friends so I can get advice. Which is more important?
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Tips for Making Friends as an Adult

Q: Allana, making new friends as an adult is hard for me but given I am about to relocate for my job, it is becoming an absolute must. I meet plenty of people at work or volunteering at events but I find it difficult to push beyond those pleasant, superficial interactions to actual friendship. I’m constantly worried I’ll appear to desperate for people’s friendship and the result will be that I come off as completely unapproachable. So how do I make new friends without coming off too strong.
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How to Take Your Sex Life to the Next Level

Q: My husband and I want to try to be more adventurous is our sex life – starting with sex in public places. I am on board but I am also self conscious. How can I be more free and more experimental?

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Mom Wants to Share Sex Stories, Save Me!

Q: My mother frequently tries to tell me about her sex life and occasionally asks me about mine. It makes me uncomfortable to discuss sex with her so I always try to dodge her questions. Nevertheless, she persists. Am I being prudish or is she being pushy? What is the best way to handle this situation?
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