Archive for Questions and Answers

Paddle-boating Your Way Through Life

I was talking about one of them with my client a few years ago… as she had gone on a paddle board outing. We both love how on a paddle board you have to be alert, strong and aware, yet you can’t be tight, in control or rigid or you fall off… it’s SUCH a metaphor for life and SUCH a great way to see how your partner reacts to life.

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Don’t Want to Hide My Friends

Q: Before I was married, all of my friends were male.  I don’t know – I just connect with the better.  That is how my husband and I met.  Now that we are married, he has an issue with my guy friends. His point of view – as long as he doesn’t know they exist, I can have them in my life. That just doesn’t seem right to me. I try to honor him by making sure all my friends are female but I don’t know if he is in the wrong telling me to hide it or if I should be ashamed for considering male friends?

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Self Esteem and Feeling Overweight

Q: My self esteem seems to be completely tied to the numbers on the scale. How do I learn to love myself even when the scale shows I am carrying a few extra pounds?

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Turning it Off and On. When to be a Noble and when to be a Badass?

Q: Dear Allana, I am sure you are asked this question a lot but as a man, women are the toughest creatures to figure out! I feel on one hand, a woman wants a man that takes charge (knight in shining armor) but on the other hand, she wants a man who is sensitive to her needs, caring, and emotionally available. How do I find a balance between being her Noble Prince Charming and her best friend?

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Avoiding the Friend Zone

Q: I can not figure out the perfect combination! How can I build the basis of a relationship with a woman without falling into the friend zone?

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Publicly Embarassed by Spouse. What now?

Q: What my husband did to me is beyond forgettable. He publicly humiliated me in front of our family and friends. A week later, he is asking for forgiveness and to come home. I can’t! I just can’t! What should I do?

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