Be Peaceful: What? I’m so huge I can’t move! (or) The kid doesn’t stop crying! I haven’t slept in weeks!
I hear you! You are expanding in size, in life and in your relationship. You are in this together, so the next time you see your beloved, tickle them. I’m totally serious…have Pleasure. Smile and ask for what you need. A bath. A nap. Support each other to do small things that relieve stress: 10 minutes sitting under a tree listening to a guided meditation to drown out the crying, hit the crap out of a pillow and cuss like a sailor listening to a heavy metal song, dance slowly to some sultry songs to move your voluptuous body, even in the kitchen together while the bottles are warming…
Pleasure has tremendous taboo around it, so we often put it last on our list of to-do’s… yet if we put it FIRST we’d have the energy, confident and JOY of living with ease. Once we destroy the taboo around it, we have to deal with other people’s opinions of us having so much fun being alive. Learn to let it roll off your back, talk to the hand, allow their point of view to be interesting and that’s it… curious… while you open wider and have all the joy available being alive. To help with that, if you’re small, receiving specks of pleasure, other’s opinions seem intense, yet if you OPEN WIDE and let every ounce of pleasure, TOTALLY have its COMPLETE way with you, opening to the orgasmic joy of the sun upon your face, the juice of a mango upon your lips, the pleasure of your child’s touch or your lover’s kiss… let it ALL IN! To get in the mood and to allow it to be a natural habit that permeate your life with delicious ease… check out…my pleasure practices!
I don’t know if you have those to-do piles that just sit there, you WANT to get to them, you MEAN to get to them, and you OUGHT to get to them… while this video was in one of those piles. It took less than 10 minutes to do. Why did I put it off?
Well if you’re like me, we only procrastinate with things we either don’t really want to do, or doing them will make us have to face something we’re not ready to face, internally or externally. We’re literally choosing not to face it and calling it procrastination.
So I guess I didn’t want to face/own being a MILF. Really owning my badass queen Harley boots, pole dancing, MILF essence. I don’t even know what I’ve really made it all mean… just that I’m WAY more potent than I realize and my erotic creature is WAY overdue coming out to play, to create adventures, to embrace life and to shine!!
So you know I call my women’s membership Redefining Sexuality, because I sure don’t care for the definition of sex or sexy… it’s void of honor, care and sacredness. Same with MILF. So I’ve redefined that too. MILF: A Maternally Inspiring Luscious Fox. Better. I love being called a fox. It’s so 80′s meets conscious cool. I know, I’m a dork. It’s about time I start Diaries of a dorky MILF… at least I’m having fun being vulnerable, unbridled and authentic!
To me being a sexy mom is about embracing activities with my child deliciously vs stressed out, overwhelmed and empty. It’s like washing dishes with music playing, it’s a choice to do even the most mundane chores joyfully or begrudgingly.
So this past spring break, I embraced some hikes we took wearing more sexy hiking gear, or bringing succulent picnics… even inviting a good male friend along on one, so I could experience being supported and my son could have some nature time alone man to man.
Truth. Do you know exactly what it’s going to take for you to take time for you?
And yet we don’t do it, do we?
OK, I may be a fab counselor and yet I don’t have the answers. YOU DO. I just ask questions and won’t stop until you face that, which you haven’t been willing to face so that you can make another choice and change your life.
The key with a stunning coaching/counselling/possibility partnership… is that you know very well what it’s going to take to make time for you… yet you’d have to FACE something that you would, if you could on your own, but you haven’t.
Your Delicious Body with Allana Pratt and Dr. Dain Heer
Most recently, I have been humbled by how I made a few decisions totally dishonoring my moral code, my truth, my knowing.
I’m going to go vulnerable heart open revealing in my next book The Reluctant MILF… decisions I made that led to me hiding and punishing myself for having gone against my truth, sentencing myself with a life of hell in a prison… with a Pollyanna happy face on to stay above water, all the time denying this painful truth… why? Because I didn’t believe I could change it.
We are limitless beings. We can change anything we damn well choose.
And the KEY to changing anything is to honor yourself no matter what. Honoring yourself is taking the time to hear your truth, follow your truth, take actions aligned with your truth, a willingness to go against the crowd and be the leader of One if necessary… to honor yourself as the most important person in your world, for you ARE.