Archive for Parenting & Fatherhood

3 Ways to stay SANE during Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving dinner can be sooo yummy and joyous… AND it can trigger old family wounds and drive you bonkers. Here are three ways to support yourself in having the best experience this year and every family gathering.

  1. Make it a Spiritual Practice
  2. Let yourself be Distracted
  3. Don’t go (OMG I actually said that out loud)

As I explain these scenarios, see if any resonate with you as a point of view that would bring you more joy, that would create the space for you to be you no matter what so-and-so said, and if they give you the added energy to navigate this being your most joyous Thanksgiving and Holiday season yet.

And, let me know how they went! Sending you huge delicious love!

~ Allana xoxoxo

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How can husbands who are dads better communicate what they want from their wives?

Many moms are on empty, operating on fumes of giving too much and not taking Mom Time to replenish, unable to listen well, have healthy boundaries or ooze with confidence and sensuality. Thus Dads wanting to communicate and be heard by their wives need to support her in filling up. Watch the kids when she goes to yoga, and then hold her in bed and talk. Run her a bath while she’s putting the kids down and do the dishes while she soaks, then wrap your arms around her and talk.

What is a man really thinking that he doesn’t say? 

Most of my male Dad clients from around the globe are the same. They aren’t saying how unappreciated they feel. They have huge hearts, ashamed to reveal how hesitant and emasculated they feel, craving physical connection and timid to piss his wife off… again.  Read More →

Relationship Questions for Men and Women from Allana Pratt

Most of my male Dad clients from around the globe are the same. They aren’t saying how unappreciated they feel. They have huge hearts, ashamed to reveal how hesitant and emasculated they feel, craving physical connection and timid to piss his wife off… again.

Why do they feel emasculated?  When a woman leaves her heart from fear/anger/sadness… and goes into her strategic unconscious mind… she says things that she had no idea hurt him, or is even meant to kill his confidence on purpose.

What specifically is the wife doing/saying/not doing to cause that? “I can NEVER count on you to be there. You’re ALWAYS looking at other women. What a WASTE of life you are sitting on the coach. WHAT kind of father do you think you are?” etc. Read More →

Navigating Diapers & Dating as a Single Dad

So you’re a single dad!

How does it get better than that?

Or is it really challenging?

Or both?

My male clients LOVE the opportunity to connect more with their kids, make their own rules, learn to make a mean mac and cheese… yet it’s also challenging with work schedules, leaving work in time to pick them up for soccer practice and learning to navigate co-parenting, cooperation and scheduling with the child’s mother, who could range from someone who has elegantly shifted into a friend… or as draining as Medusa. Read More →

Parenting in Two Different Homes…How It Works For Me.

I’m a single motherless mom of a 9 yr. old boy, who is parented differently at both homes.

As a relationship expert, I have the blessing of interviewing parenting experts in my career, perhaps God’s way of helping me out personally!

For everyday acceptable behavior, from chores to kind words, this is ‘Acceptable Behavior’, not rewarded with candy/presents… expected as a member of the family, acknowledged as ‘I noticed you made your bed. Thank you’. Read More →

Johnny Depp, single, datable on the market? Why?

Depp, arguably one of the sexiest celebrities out there, is single, datable, on the market. We ponder… why?

Vanessa Paradis & Depp, who chose to go against the grain of traditional marriage, confirmed they have “amicably” parted ways and appealed for privacy for the sake of their two children.

What’s magnificent as a Relationship Coach is that they showed 14 years is possible outside the confines of a socially expected structure of marriage. Read More →