Author Archive for Allana Pratt, Intimacy Expert – Page 2

Love of My Life Left Me. My Happy Ending Is Dead

Q: Allana, My husband and I are divorced. He left me shattered. How do I rebuild after the man of my dreams walked out on me?”
A: Wow, I am so very sorry. How awful. You must be in a lot of pain. I have no idea how you must be feeling. I hope you are taking good care of your body, your heart and your world.
How do you rebuild? I’m a little hesitant to tell you as the tone of your question sounds like you may not be there quite yet. And yet you asked, so with deepest tenderness for the pain you’re in… here we go.
First, no one shatters you. You are not shatter-able. Yes, there is pain in life. And this is painful. But suffering is optional. And saying that he left you shattered gives all your power away to him, saying he creates your happiness… when in fact that’s your job.
Being betrayed totally sucks, and yet I find it quite curious that he would just up and leave. Were things perfect and this blind sided you? Were there problems you were unwilling to face? Were there red flags you were unwilling to see? Were you so in your head that you disconnected from your heart and intuition that could have seen this coming?
It sounds like this is a big wake up call to love yourself madly, to get to know what truly makes you happy, to find people who honor respect and adore you for you, to chose activities that delight you, a job that challenges and inspires you, a workout regime that enlivens you, a coach/mentor/group to support you.
This isn’t an easy quick fix…. this is an invitation for a whole lifestyle upgrade and adjustment so that you heal, truly know your worth, let go of people/situations that don’t honor you, cultivate ones that do celebrate your exquisiteness… and ALL OF THIS BEFORE YOU GET OUT DATING AGAIN PLEASE! Or you very well may choose another man who leaves you… THEN we REALLY have some healing to do.
In coaching calls with me… given I am so safe, tender, unconditionally loving, non judgmental and masterful at guiding clients to the core of the pain to heal it, as opposed to wasting time dealing with symptoms… I can turn people’s lives around in record time… if they are ready to grow heal and learn. If they are more interested in being a victim, blaming or wanting to be saved… I won’t take them on as clients. You really have to be willing to ask What’s Right About This? What’s the Gift? If My Soul Chose This, What’s the Lesson?
I’d hate for you to be alone during such a painful time, and yet with my divorced clients, when they’re done working with me, they look back and even say, this was the best thing that’s ever happened to me… honestly. I know you’re not there… yet if you’re willing to be there… let’s connect. A strategy session will give you all the information you require to make an educated decision about working with me in 6 Sessions or an Intensive weekend, or like most clients choose.. both.
Your whole life is ahead of you. I know your worth feels like crap. Yet if you value yourself and work with me, that self worth will be mirrored in a man who honors, cherishes and adores you. Promise.
Great love,

He Wants a Small Army and I am Done with Kids. HELP!

Q:  Allana, for the past two years, I’ve been dating someone. He really wants more kids, but I don’t. What should I do?

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What are Ways to Keep a Long Distance Relationship Alive?

In the past, I hosted (in my third DVD for The Sinclair Institute) one of the foremost sex educators online.

They certainly have many ‘tools’ to support you on your own side of the world to spice up phone sex.

Yet here is what has worked for my clients, videos. I wouldn’t recommend posting them on youtube of course, not even on ‘private’… and I wouldn’t recommend sending something overtly sexual unless you completely trust your partner… and yet one client did a two part video series for her man.

First he had sent her a package of lingerie. She opened it ‘on camera’ expressing her joy and teasing him to what was coming next…

Then she created a video of her dancing for him in several of the pieces… with a strip tease at the end.

He LOVED it and their texts got HOT, their emails more intimate… and a certain Skype ‘date’ very erotic.

What underlies all these solutions is the commitment to stay connected emotionally, sexually and intimately when your partner is away.

Remember just cuz you’re not IN bed with your partner each night, to still ‘hold space’ and stay connected. Distance can make the heart grow fonder…

I Think He Has Fallen Out of Love. How Can I tell?

You asked, “Allana, how do I know if he has fallen out of love with me?”

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Should Loving Someone Be This Hard?

In this video I speak on how love IS going to take work! I give you tips on what efforts are important for a great relationship. I also explain how relationships can fail. I also address how you know where you are in your relationship and how to trust your intuitive wisdom.

If you want a better body, you go to the gym. You want to keep a plant alive? You water it! That Disney fairytale of finding the right one and everything will be bliss thereafter is “B.S.” There’s nothing wrong if there’s problems.

How much effort should you put in? What does a plant get on a daily basis? A plant gets sunshine, water, pruning, paying it attention. All these things make a plant thrive. They are also needed for a relationship to thrive.

Both partners should be willing to do the work. I’ve seen where one partner puts in most of the effort while the other puts only about 50%. That could work out. The one time where it won’t work is if one partner is putting forth 100% and the other 0%.

How do you know where you are? Trust your intuitive wisdom. You know where this relationship is. If you can’t trust your truth, have a professional like me help hold your space and go through this with you. Oh, the empowerment and excitement of what’s really possible!

YOU have the power to create anything that you desire!

Huge delicious erotic sensual love now and expanding forevermore, Allana

What Are Ways To Spice Up My Marriage and My Sex Life?

You asked Coach Allana, “How can I become more into my sex life and make my hubby happy?”
Improve Sex Life in Marriage

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