Say Your “Thank-You’s”

by Allana Pratt, Intimacy Expert | 10/25/2010

Photo Credit: Neel Golapi

Being grateful is a beautiful thing but being grateful for where we are now or what we have now is harder because quite often we desire something other than where we are or what we already have.

If we can’t be completely at peace with where are life is at this very moment we can’t continue with the cycle and make room for what we have coming in our future. It’s as if resistance is persisting and holding back our blessings.

Seeing what we have right now in the present and appreciating all that we have been given will open up the path for more blessings and things to be grateful for.

Before You Even Open Your Eyes, Know You’re Worthy

by Allana Pratt, Intimacy Expert | 10/18/2010

Photo Credit: lady_ishmael24

I was raised that if you worked for it then you deserved it. If you worked really hard, if you really killed yourself and went above and beyond, then you earned it. You know what? I think that’s a lie. I think life is meant to be easy.

I used to wake up in the morning not feeling of worth unless I did this, this, this and this and at the end of the day, if I accomplished everything I had on my list, I allowed myself to feel worthy. That’s a really hard way to live.

Who Cares What They Think!?

by Allana Pratt, Intimacy Expert | 10/11/2010

Photo Credit: Valentina Georgia Pegorer

As moms and amazing women I think it is really important that we be ourselves. So many of us spend so much of our energy trying to do, be and look like we feel other people expect us to do, be and look like. We want to please other people and end up shortchanging ourselves.

I love makeup. I love doing my nails. I love doing my hair. I love dressing up. Growing up, others made me feel like those things I loved were shallow, vain qualities. I was the same person I am now, but my appearance led others to make false judgments about me. I let those impressions hold me back on being who I truly was.

New Moms Find Your Inner Hot Mama!

by Allana Pratt, Intimacy Expert | 10/04/2010

Photo Credit: Paolo Mandatelli

Do you ever wonder who you are? After becoming a Mom – which is the absolute greatest gift I’ve received – I started to forget about me. I wasn’t sure who I was anymore. Was I a mom, a wife, a career woman or a machine that feeds her family and forgets her soul? Have you ever had one of those days when you just give, give, give and forget to relax and refuel?

I don’t know about you but when I forget about me, and don’t take the time to tend to myself, I get awfully crabby and short. I started to feel like a victim and blame everyone around me for anything that’s going wrong. I won’t even tell you what my ex-husband would say I acted like back then, starts with a “B” and ends with an “itch.”

Back when I was a new Mom and there was no paycheck coming in because my husband decided to quit his job the day after our son was born (thank you so much for that!), I was so overwhelmed and felt completely worthless. I would have no sleep, be changing diapers and feeding all day, cleaning up the house, cooking meals and basically doing everything with no help. I felt completely taken for granted, worthless, envious of everyone around me and totally ignored. When my son was only six weeks old, I had to get away and checked myself into a hotel for 2 nights. It wasn’t a party, well maybe a pity party since I didn’t leave the room and just slept and cried.